Thomas Jefferson Memorial Church--Unitarian Universalist

Darkness Visible

Part I

Rev. David Takahashi Morris

December 17, 2006

 

Acknowledging the Gathering Dark

 

This year has seen its share of struggle, strife, and sadness.  The wisdom of the solstice is the wisdom of the Tao:  Light and dark must balance one another.  If we will not accept the presence of darkness, the light can never fully return.  And so in this circle of compassionate community, let us turn to face the darkness that has troubled our days in the passing year.

 

We have known disappointments.  The promise unfulfilled; the longed-for event that didn’t quite measure up to our expectations; the anticipated day that never came.  Disappointment dims our light.

 

We have felt loneliness.  The phone call that didn’t come; the days when we felt friendless; the hours when we thought no one could possibly share what we were feeling.  Loneliness dims our light.

 

We have experienced betrayal. The friend who failed us when we needed them; the deserved recognition that did not come our way; the partner who broke a sacred vow.  Betrayal dims our light.

 

We have been burdened with shame.  The mistake we were horrified to realize we had made; the parents or partners for whom our efforts weren’t quite good enough; the shortcomings we felt among others who somehow seemed richer, brighter, more self-assured than we.  Shame dims our light.

 

We have suffered loss.  The failure of a long-held dream; the destruction of a beloved place; the passing in death of a precious companion on life’s journey.  Loss dims our light.

 

We have been touched by sorrow.  We have witnessed the pain of the world in too many ways; we have seen that our own life is not headed where we had hoped it might be; we have found that we are not who we once imagined we would become.  Sorrow dims our light.

 

          We are not only afflicted by the dark.  We contribute to it as well.  The passing months of this year have seen their share of blindness, blunder, and transgression, not only in others but in ourselves as well.  In this sanctuary of aspiration and of honesty, let us acknowledge those shadows which we may have had a part in casting this year.

 

We have lived with greed.  The desire for possessions, the desire for control of others, the futile desire to make ourselves feel secure by surrounding ourselves with what is ours.  Greed dims our light.

 

We have been touched by arrogance.  The assumption of the right to make decisions for others; the expectation that our claims will have priority over others, the conviction that we alone have arrived at the conclusions everyone else would share if only they had our vision and good sense.  Arrogance dims our light.

 

We have felt the heat of anger.  The fury of frustrated expectations, the annoyance of encountering inexplicable resistance, the maddening blindness of those who cannot see the truth so apparent to us.  Anger dims our light.

 

We have been assailed by fear.  The inability to trust another; the precarious sense of a situation beyond our control, the unwillingness to risk what we think we need for the sake of what we might become.  Fear dims our light.

 

We have been goaded by hate.  Dismissing the ideas and judgments of those who oppose our values; wishing for the destruction of those who seem to threaten what we hold dear; failing to fully embrace the humanity of those who deny our own worth, dignity, or virtue.  Hate dims our light.

 

We have been tempted by despair.  The values we hold sacred have seemed weak and disregarded in the world; the forces of indifference and division have seemed to go unchallenged or even admired; the joy for which we have hoped has seemed far beyond our grasp.  Despair dims our light.